Understanding Grief: You’re Not Alone and How I Can Help

Grief is a deeply personal journey, yet it’s also a universal experience. If you’ve lost someone or something meaningful, you’re not alone—my aim is to support and guide you through the pain, help you develop resilience, and find renewed meaning in life.

What Is Grief?

Defining Grief and Mourning

Grief is a natural response to loss. It isn’t only about death—it can include losing relationships, health, identity, or major life changes. Mourning is the intentional expression and ritual of grief. Recognizing both is the first step toward healing.

Common Emotional, Physical, and Behavioral Symptoms

People navigating grief often feel sadness, anger, guilt, confusion, or even numbness. Physically, grief can show up as fatigue, muscle tension, stomach aches, or changes in sleep and appetite. Behaviorally, you might withdraw, find it hard to concentrate, or immerse yourself in work. These reactions are normal and often the mind and body’s way of processing.

Different Types of Grief

Anticipatory Grief

This grief happens when you expect a loss—like watching a loved one decline due to illness. Anxiety, preemptive sadness, and tension are common.

Complicated Grief

When grief remains intense and debilitating months later, affecting daily life, it may signal complicated grief. Therapy can help address and resolve these prolonged symptoms.

Disenfranchised Grief

This occurs when someone else’s loss isn’t socially recognized—like the death of a pet, a caregiver role, or estranged family. People may feel isolated or invalidated.

Collective or Communal Grief

Events like natural disaster, violence, or social upheaval can cause shared grief. You might benefit from community-based healing work.

You’re Not Alone: Normalizing Grief

Shared Human Experience

Everyone grieves at some point. Although the journey is personal, you’re part of a collective story of loss and healing.

How Grief Shows Up Differently in Everyone

Your experience may differ from others in intensity and timeline. No two grief journeys are alike, and that’s okay.

How I Help You Tackle Grief

Creating a Safe, Non-Judgmental Space

My role is to listen deeply, validate your experience, and create a collaborative environment for healing.

Evidence-Based Techniques

  • Narrative Therapy: Rewriting your story to find hope and meaning.
  • EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing): Especially useful for traumatic grief.
  • Cognitive Behavioral Approaches: Helping reframe negative thoughts.

Building Coping Skills and Resilience

We work together on mindfulness, grounding, self-compassion, and pacing—your journey, in your own time.

Ongoing Support and Follow-Up

Healing isn’t a one-off. I’ll be with you through check-ins, workshops, or referrals as needed.

Practical Strategies for Dealing with Grief

Mindfulness and Self-Compassion Practices

Techniques like body scans, breathwork, and loving-kindness meditation soften the impact of difficult emotions.

Journaling and Expressive Writing

Putting thoughts on paper creates clarity, helps process complex emotions, and reveals patterns.

Grounding Techniques and Body Awareness

Exercises like the 5-4-3-2-1 method or gentle movement reconnect you to the present moment and your body.

Creating Meaning and Rituals

Whether lighting a candle, planting a tree, or sharing stories, symbolic actions foster closure and remembrance.

Grief in Special Situations

Loss of a Loved One vs Other Losses

Grief is grief—but society treats certain losses as more legitimate. Pet owners, for instance, deserve grief support, too.

Grief After Job Loss, Divorce, Pet Loss

All significant losses require grieving. Acknowledging and naming them empowers your healing.

When to Seek Extra Support

Recognizing Signs of Complicated Grief

Signs include persistent despair, avoidance of reminders, or loss of trust. If grief severely affects daily function past six months, professional help is key.

FAQs About Grief

Is my grief normal?
Yes. Grief is highly individual and comes in waves—what you feel is valid.

How long do grief symptoms last?
There’s no set timeline. While many find major relief within 6–12 months, grief can resurface during life milestones or anniversaries.

Can grief lead to depression?
If symptoms worsen, deepen, or include suicidal thoughts, it may be depression. Reach out for mental-health support.

Is it okay to feel relief after a loved one dies?
Absolutely. Relief from suffering or responsibility is natural and doesn’t mean you don’t love or miss them.

How can family support me?
Encourage conversation, listen without judgment, offer tangible help, and respect your pace.

What if my grief gets worse?
It happens. Grief can ebb and flow—yet if feelings intensify over time, connect with a professional for additional support.

Through my healing journey, I’ve learned that pain doesn’t have to define us — it can transform us. This belief led me to pursue certifications in grief, trauma, ADHD, and life coaching. Today, I use these tools to support others in their  unique journeys — creating a space that is gentle, non-judgmental, and deeply compassionate.

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Shermin Mullan

One of the greatest joys in my work is helping people with Grief, Trauma, PDSD and ADHD. I understand their struggles with focus, emotional regulation, and self-worth.

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